Hello Ranger.

Well YOU want to change. Your wife seems like she's doin' fine right where she's at. I see a no- win situation.

I had warned my brother 3 years before he died. I begged him. I even found a wonderful companion for him. He didn't bite.

He told me he was addicted to his wife and would not consider divorcing her again. They had divorced earlier...she got a lot of money in the settlement and she blew it on one of her boyfriends. One boyfriend took his own life when she left him.

Everywhere she goes she brings and has brought nothing what torment and grief..even death itself.

She was an absolutely toxic mother to her three beautiful children. One is a stripper now..with a baby. Boyfriend's been in jail for drug-dealing.

Another daughter is a crack addict.

Their son wants to move to China. He has a full head of dreadlocks...(I think they are called) Smokes pot and is plugged into Reggae thruout the day. The last I heard he was still living on his inheritance.

My brother was quite wealthy at one point. He started with NOTHING. She bled all of it from him.

At the time of his death...he was just filing for bankruptcy.

My brother was in therapy. Thinking if he changed HIMSELF...all would fall in place. (She refused therapy...said it was for "crazy people"!)

She was adept at belittling my brother for everything.

Just remember to take stock of your life. Look at it realisticly. Not through some dream.

In any case..I sincerely wish you the very best. Remember think of yourself...first!

~Dottie