Hello everyone,

My husband has a very severe case of OCD. He's always had anxiety, but it wasn't until about a month before we got married (after a woman died while he was a lifeguard at a pool) that he started having OCD. He has never really been the same, but then when we got married to got much worse. He started yelling at me for walking by garbage cans and for cleaning the bathroom within a month of being married... not because he was trying to be rude, but because he thought he was 'protecting me'. Somehow we have made it through and we have been married now for over 10 years but he still tells me how he wants everything done and what he doesn't want me to do, and if I don't do it he will yell at me or keep at me until I do it. I don't want to leave him, but this is affecting me and I'm worried it will start affecting our little girls (2 1/2 and 11 months.) I know he doesn't want to do the things he does and he is an entirely different person when he isn't experiencing OCD, but the anxiety is everywhere in our lives. It seems when he gets over one fear, another will take its place. He loves our girls and I don't want to leave him, but I don't know how to not to the OCD when he yells at me constantly if I don't. I'm so lost. Please help. I'm desperate!