I'm struggling in my life on what to do with being a virgin. I'm 21 and I'm really starting to feel like its getting weird. When I was in high school I was a bit shy so it didn't happen. In college I have had five sexual relationships with women where I had quite a bit or oral sex but I didn't have vaginal sex because I was really paranoid about stds/pregnancy and I honestly had no emotional attachment to any of them, except for one girl which I now regret not having sex with. Anyway the big problem I have is that its just not me, I am a sexually open person and the girls I am attracted to are sexually free and never virgins. I'm not moral or religious and I'm (not to be arrogant) a decent looking guy, so it just doesn't fit me. I was hoping to get it out of the way with a girl this year but I just haven't met anyone and now I'm heading towards 22 as a virgin, nearly graduated and I'm honestly starting to feel like a loser. I really don't know what to do because waiting this long has really messed me up, I don't feel like I'm the person I want to be at this stage in my life. I'd love it if I could have a relationship with the girl I lose my virginity to and not have it be casual sex but I don't see any other way. Even then I don't have any opertunities for casual sex in the near future and I'm about to graduate college a virgin which makes me look odd. Ugh I know other people have way worse problems then me and this sounds really stupid but I need some real help here because this is making me miserable inside and I don't know what to do. Thanks, I really do appreciate somebody listening, its a hard thing to talk about to friends and family. Not knocking virginity, its nice in theory to wait for one you like but its not happening for me and its starting to get weird.