I'm so sorry you're going through this; I'm sure it's extremely hard on everyone involved.

I don't really have any advice to offer you, but something you said REALLY bothered me. You said that "Yes, my husband drove home drunk. Considering our finances, that's not that bad." I'm sorry, but I completely disagree. It is extremely bad. It's extremely dangerous. Not only to himself but also to others. If something were to happen, anything at all, because he drove home drunk, that would be devastating, emotionally and financially. Please, please, please encourage him not to do that anymore. It's also setting up a bad example for your children...

Again, I didn't mean to be harsh, I just don't want you to take such a serious matter so lightly.

I hope things start looking better for you soon.
Best wishes,
Ro