dont forget their favorite foods, and if you all ever cook them together, eating meals together, etc etc. The things with your kids dont have to be trips, or time you are away from home, but simple, everyday things that will make MEMORIES for them......saying their prayers at night with them, singing silly songs , tickling, laughing...things like that mean as much to kids as going off to Disney World for 3 days. (Altho they would like that , its all the other little things that add up, and will make them into good adults). And u certainly know their ages, and what grade they are in, best subjects, worst, friends names, etc.

As for WHY they would be better off with you - WE ALL KNOW WHY - but you have to let the GAL know it is because of the ONE on ONE time, no distractions at your house, they are your ONLY concern, that your daughter wants to be there, that it concerns you that the EX doesnt believe your daughter about certain issue, that you are home everynight and dont pawn the kids off to go bowling, etc etc etc.

As for what you will do as well or better than EX - you will raise them to be tolerant, not "force" them to be something they arent, accept their "flaws" and love them 100% not fearing it will make YOU look bad, you will be consistent with their lifestyle, be home when they get there since you work out of your home, etc etc etc.

You just cannot see thru the fear of whats at stake - you have so many wonderful qualities ! Also, remember that it is not only YOUR meeting with the GAL that is determining this issue, but the meeting with the kids, and the EX. (We all know he will tell a BUNCH of lies, to build himself up to the level he THINKS he is, and that will bite him in the butt IMHO - cause they will see thru his manipulative manner).

Keep ur chin up S. You will do FINE !