I agree it's not that big a deal really - at least you have some sexual experience. It's sounds like you want to have the first experience with someone you care about - so you have to be patient and start establishing some contacts. I think most young people are having sex way too early now. I don't think a young woman would care whether you're a virgin or not - some would even like it. Just make sure you have safe sex and preferably your partner would be on additonal birth control. You might feel more relaxed if you get the birth control out of the way.