Shirley,

I am so sorry your having to deal with all this right now. No wonder your a big ball of nerves.

Remember, from what I gather from your ex, he is a control freak and thrives on making you feel like he has the upper hand in all situations. Remember though, he doesnt. You are a strong, independant mother, women, person who who both working and a full time mother. To me, there is nothing more on this earth that is more important that mothering and in my opinion, you are doing a wonderful job at it, even with the butt lick intruding.

Try to relax, close your eyes, think about all the things you do as a mother for your kids. Trips, outings, even for relaxing walks or car rides. These things count. beleive me, kids remember things that we consider small or not so important. When it comes to your ex, do npt hold anything back. Expose him for the self centered, self richeous (sp) SOB that he is. Take control back. You let him know that you are the WOMEN, the MOTHER and you can survive, and you will.

I wish you all the luck and hugs and love you need to get through this. hang in there hun. It will work out.

Hugs,

Jen