Thanks for the hug! (much needed) and for the reassurance.

You are right of course that if you love someone its worth it - trouble is (for me) - when you draw the line. I can find myself supporting/waiting/hoping for years and nothing will happen. It worries me. That I will be carring at the expense of my own life...

I think I will try to talk to him about the depression and about seeing a dr and not about the drinking. At least for now. I think down deep he knows he has an issue with drinking he just cannot stop on his own and probably does not really want to...

He was aggressive and threatening last night (he looked and sounded drunk) so I rang the domestic violence officer today and she mentioned visiting the dr and talking about the depression rather than the drinking.

I guess its very hard for me to talk softly and with concern and care when he is agressive and insulting...