Hi Mandy,

It is only in the last few weeks that the penny has dropped and that the struggling I have been having all my adult life with sex actually amounts to an addiction. So no, I am not having any specific addiction therapy yet, although I saw a counsellor for a year before the darkest secrets were disclosed to my wife - I didn't disclose them to my counsellor either - and now I have am seeing a psychotherapist. Although, again I starting seeing her before the sex addiction idea fell into place.

I am going to a SA meeting on Sunday, fortunately there is one very local to me in the UK, and will be talking to my therapist about whether she is best equipped to help me.

Counselling for me and my wife sounds like a smart idea, what sort do you recommend? Presumably I should look for a sex therapist. How do you tell which sort is the right one for the problem you have? And yes, I love her deeply and am only just beginning to comprehend the pain I have caused her. You see, I've never been able to love anyone the way she has loved me, so I really have no idea what it feels like to be betrayed in this way.

My comments about religion simply demonstrate my ignorance of the 12 Step programme.

Steve