Thank you ((Notz)) for your kind words of wisdom. Since the beginning of the week she kept mentioning some of her friends were planning on going to the movies - it kept changing and I asked if boys were coming. She said "what if they invite the boys, then it's not my fault". I said "no I don't approve of that". She tried to say other girls her age do that so why can't she - of course that's not logical that we have to do what others kids are doing. She extremely intelligent and has a strong personality. I've never tried to squash that strength. Then she pulled the "don't you trust me Mom"?? She pulled every trick in the book and eventually said I got her hopes up and we're too strict on her and this will make her want to move out when she's old enough - that hurt. She can debate with the best of them and I think one day she'll make a great lawyer lol.

I just remember when I was 14 and I was a good kid mind you, but I did like one boy, so I know the strong feelings that come up. Luckily for me I stayed away from buys until I was 18 after that. I regret the way I thought back then. At this time my daughter thinks she knows everything. All I know is, if I surrender to her socializing at this age with boys, I feel it's inevitable something physical will happen. It scares me when I hear about girls having sex at a young age.

I think next time she wants to go to the movies, I'll speak with the girls parent first and make sure everything's legitimate. I know the teenage years are tough but I didn't think the challenges would start this early. It was so much easier when she was younger. She started complaining she has no freedom meanwhile she got to go to leadership camp at the beginning of the school year. I just started having difficulty this year. I have talked with her about sex and the risks. Sigh!!!