I can't believe I missed your post here Paddy......have been in & out of here & end up missing a lot.....

You know there isn't a mean bone in your body......unfortunately when we are caring & want to help people that leaves us open for people to take advantage of. It's hard to want to be careful......but I am so glad to hear that you set your foot down with your partner.....I know this isn't the first time this has happened....remember (about 6 months ago) they were trying to pull the same thing on you. Think the fact that it's continually repeating itself....it's good that you think of ending the relationship actually.

Personally any together relationship requires respect on both sides.....can't have a successful relationship if it's not both sided when it comes to respect.....financial, emotional, all around respect in all areas.....you can't build a relationship on feeling of love....it will fail every time if the relationship isn't surrounded by respect above all else. (speaking from personal experience). I have found that when I realized that I never respected my husband or trusted him to take care of me the way I would take care of him......I couldn't love him either & realized that I never did love him when I realistically looked back at the overall relationship & feelings.

I know that we get comfortable where we are & change is really uncomfortable & even scary & stressful......but honestly from my personal experience.....I am so much better off alone than in a bad relationship. Alone is really a very good, healing place to be & gives ourselves a chance to focus on developing our own values & thoughts & actions that aren't based of reactions to others people, but to the life we need to live for our own well being.

I would not trade being alone for anything & would never consider allowing anyone back into my life in any close relationship of any kind. Have recovered my true values I had lost (or were hiding under the mess) & the person I really was that didn't have to feel the need to fight for survival (not literal, but mentally).

Hoping that all is going better with you now.....& I appologize for not seeing your post sooner my friend,


Debbie