I want to post the two, long e-mails I got from the ex that helped put me in this latest state of "I'm worthless and useless and a danger to my daughter."

Yes, I suppose they should stay confidential, but they aren't going to.

From the ex on 9/1/05 at 5:22 p.m.

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It seems likely that the Dr. would make some dietary recommendations for the period preceding the appt. with the nutritionist. Since most parents would have asked a few questions, I can only assume that you are, once again, withholding important medical and treatment information from me. You are not acting in a cooperative manner. As the children's father I need to advised of these things. I do not appreciate your smug/terse responses to my concerns and questions and I will not tolerate further secrecy in matters concerning the children. Further, you should be aware that not only do you not have control of the children's medical care, in the event of any disagreement between you and I my decision(s) shall prevail - per the original divorce order. (see section 2 - Access and Decisions) I have been infinitely tolerant of your need for total control - and your verbal attacks, but no more. If you do not display complete and open cooperation and communication, I will exercise my decision making authority and you will be out of the medical decision making loop - period.

I have phoned the endocrine clinic and asked them for temporary dietary recommendations for Alexa. I will forward them to you as soon as I receive them.

I would also like to know whether or not you, or others, are administering any prescription medicine to either of the children. If so, I will need to know what those prescription meds are and the name of the prescribing physician.

Thanks for your consideration and cooperation!

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I told him he was being paranoid and insecure (with the help of a friend who drafted my reply because I was too shook up to think straight). Oh, and we have 50/50 custody, he CAN'T take away any medical decision making because he doesn't HAVE total control like he says he does. He's already been told that by lawyers and the mediator. ("Someone" sure has selective memory).

His reply back on 9/2/05 at 1:43 p.m.

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I am neither paranoid nor insecure, I am looking out for Ally's best interests. Historically your handling of Alexa's medical care has been shrouded in secrecy and deceit and has potentially contributed to her present condition. I intend to see that Alexa receives the care she actually needs, not what you believe she needs or what you believe will provide you with relief. Once I believed, as you do, that since you work in the medical field you are uniquely qualified to deal with the medical matters affecting the children. I was wrong, you are a typist with knowledge of medical terminology and possess little more medical knowledge than any other "lay person".

Your assertion that you wish to work as a team is difficult to believe, given your past actions and the motion presently before the court, and the language in your reply is obviously manicured for review by those in the legal profession. It is you that uses threats and intimidation rather than cooperation in matters concerning the children. I will no longer throw my hands up and acquiesce to your calculated and manipulative measures, or your threats. These are not threats that I'm making. I am advising you that I expect to be fully informed in matters affecting the children and that anything other than complete disclosure and cooperation is unacceptable. Historically, this has not been the case and my only indication of the children receiving treatment has been the billing statements. Your reply illustrates this perfectly... "When Dr. Sisto said to increase her protein and calories, I felt that was self explanatory." ... Dr. Sisto did not tell me that. She may have told you that when I was out of the exam room or in your phone conversation with her, but you never passed that on to me.

You can continue to expect full disclosure from me in all matters relating to the children and your opinion in these matters will be graciously considered.

Dates and other matters:

I have received a packet of documents from Marilyn Brennen's office to be completed prior to Alexa's 09/29/05 3:00pm appt. It includes a brief health history form, contact info form, financial agreement and fee schedule, and a patients rights/informed consent form. Let me know if you would like to review these. The health history requests info on current health conditions and medications. What should I note for Alexa's low prealbumin condition? Just that, low prealbumin? Malnutrition? I will also need the names, frequency, and dosage of any medications Alexa is taking. When I mentioned to Alexa that Dr. Hitch suggested that a counselor might be able to help her work out the anxiety she is feeling and reduce her difficulty in school, she was not very excited. I think her experience at school is that the "bad kids" go to see a counselor. Please talk with her about this, as will I. I have heard only very good things about Marilyn Brennen's work with children and hope we can ease Alexa's worries about meeting with her. Because I'd rather not take her out of school, I have asked that Ally be placed on the cancellation list and that she be rescheduled for an after 4:00 pm appt should one become available.

Marilyn Brennen's Contact Info:
American Foundation of Counseling Services
130 East Walnut Street (7th floor)
Green Bay, WI 54301
920-437-8256

Bowling season began this week. Bowling night is Thursday. In most cases an adult will be here at all times on bowling night. The most likely exception would be the early shift nights when the kids may be alone for up to an hour between 8:00 and 9:00. If for some reason the children would be unattended for a longer period I will advise you. Since the children will rarely be here alone on bowling nights, I'm requesting that you not exercise the right of first refusal. In those cases when the kids would be alone for a few hours it might make sense for them to stay by you, especially on the late shift nights. Here's the schedule:

(this was some stupid table that he seems to be addicted to using in most of his messages. Has to flaunt his computer knowledge and all. :rolling_eyes: )

Note that there are 2 nights for which the schedule is determined by the standings (TBD). I will know the schedule for those nights 1 week in advance.

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This is the first message I sent him:
Dr. Sisto just called and said Alex's hormones, chromosomes, and celiac test all came back normal.

The problem is that her pre-albumin is low at 14.9. Low end of normal is 22-23. Growth hormone won't make a difference at this point. She needs to up her protein and calorie intake first. Once that happens, she should have a growth spurt.

She wants to send Alex to a nutritionist to set up an eating plan. I left a message with Dr. Sipple's office asking if he has any names in the area.

(Did I or did I not pass along info that he said I didn't? Or am I delusional and I'm the only one who sees that bolded text up there)?