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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
I'm curious, what does your son, her husband say about all of this? What did he say about her moving 6 hours away and of her reasons for not talking to him over the dog?
I believe that there is more to this issue than meets the eye.. possibly control/authority issues on her part?
I'm sorry I can't give you a better answer... I need the mull over the issue a little bit, but I wanted to ask those questions first...
Best wishes,
Ro
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Thanks. well, he is unhappy of course about her leaving and returning to the business but willing to accept it for business sake. although it was doing well with me running it. I went there so she could leave. It was unclear to anyone why she felt this way.
The dog became then the focus when I left.
He is hurt by it, of course, her not speaking to him.
I keep circling around should I return the dog, will she be happy and speak to him again...then I think there is more going on, it is not the dog and it was not my performance as manager that was off.
Is this immaturity? Is it wanting out of a relationship and finding other ways to express it?
At first my son said he did not want to be involved with dog issue.
Then she kept on him and did not care really the position she was putting him in, between his wife and mother. Then he called me and said she is not talking to me Mom, I hate to ask you but let ME take the dog.
I said this is a demand I am not willing to jump to, emotional blackmail and temper tantrums. Tell her she needs to call and talk to me. She called the police instead. They said they could not get involved.
Now she is so mad
her mother said to me she is afraid she will leave him could I please return the dog.
I am saying unbelievable~!!!
Now my son says this has nothing to do with you Mom.
Her mother also said have I considered the implications of if they stay together and have children I may never be allowed to see them? Over a dog she never cared about until now??
I am saying to myself that is mean spirited maybe not good idea to have children until that changes.
As I write this - it sounds quite dysfunctional and just plain immature. and I think she is not able to talk about how she really feels. but if she could it would it might be maybe I am not happy being married. thanks for reading and your comment