At the risk of babbling too much here I wanted to speak to the underlying issue you are dealing with. That of your own experiences at 14. No doubt they are foreshadowing your thinking about your daughter as she approached that age and all the sexual tensions that come through those tender teenage years of growing into a woman. It sounds like you carry forward some pain that you wish to spare your daughter. It likely triggers some memories that take you back to the pain.

This weekends challenge may not be just about deciding appropriate dating age but it may also be about your own healing of past hurts. Be kind to yourself and trust yourself to know your love for your daughter will guide you the right way.