Your day sounds very busy and your H sounds just like mine does. Sits and plays computer games all day as I'm working. And when I get home there are always a billion things that need to be done while they sit playing their game. Yes I think your frustration is justified. But I don't have a magic answer to give you. If I did I won't have a H sitting in front of the computer all day playing some stupid game. I ask myself the same thing. Why couldn't my H do some of this while I was working running around trying not to go crazy in the process. And when I start to do something my H will say, "I was going to get to that." Ok, but when it's 8pm and the clothes need to be washed and I need them for the morning and I'm not going to wait for you to get up and do them. And if he does get up and put the wash in he gets into his game and forgets to dry them. And if you are like me and ask H to do something they say you are nagging them and to quit bugging them. I feel it's just easier for me to get up and do it then to listen to him. But I don't think I should have to keep asking him to do something that he knows needs to be done. But I don't have the answers. Sometimes I want to take that computer game and just unplug it.