I too know what you mean. Hubby spent the better part of 2 years not working. I would get up and go off to work, while he slept. He would surf the `net and play games all day. I could leave the man a list and only half of it would get done. When I got angry, I would put a password on the computer so that he couldn't use it when I wasn't home. That was only a few times, but it got my message across, loud and clear.

It amazes me the amount of time it takes him to do something. He will spend an entire day and barely clean a room. I cleaned the entire house (vacuumed, washed furniture covers, moved furniture, etc) in one day. There were days when, like monty, I just wanted to throw the computer/game system out the window. He's told me the, "if you need me to do something, just ask"...however, I resent having to tell him the dishes need done. I believe it is quite obvious when the dishes need done.

Have you tried talking to him and telling him you need help? That worked for a little bit with my hubby...eventually he reverted, but then we'd talk again. He can't read your mind (but sometimes, that is a good thing ). Good luck and let us know how things progress, if they progress!