Hi Caroline-- I care!!

I think your frustration is very justified-- a marriage is supposed to have sharing in it-- can't always be 50-50, but it can be:
you 65- him 35 one day-- and then you 40 - him 60 another day. You are feeling slighted and rightly so.

Have you thought about not doing some of the things he needs done-- like, don't add his laundry in when you do the wash-- let him wash and dry his own. clothes. ( at least, until he shares the work more)

You probably feel angry with yourself because when one is pulling most of the load and doesn't say anything it can chip away at your self-worth-- perhaps deep down inside you realize that and that makes you feel as though you are denying yourself when you don't speak up.

I once watched a documentary about African Lions once-- the females do all the hunting and raising of the young-- while the males sit, relax and eat- only called to work if in need of defending the pride. Some human relationships can become akin to lions-- but with one big difference--- we have the ability to speak with reason!!! Please-- use your voice and let your husband know that in helping with things he's giving you and the family more value!!

(I hope what I've said is not taken as a condemnation in any way to anyone-- I still worry about things like that.)

Just wanted to help and let you know I care and that you are a wonderful and loving person.

mandy