I'm not sure exactly where to post this as it doesn't seem to fit exactly in any category, but here seems the best fit.

My T and I were discussing the messages I got as I grew up about sexuality. There was no "birds and bees" discussion in my house. But I have these really strong feelings from when I was little. But in thinking about this I remembered a time when I went to the doctor to get a physical before a trip I went on and ended up feeling completely violated. The doctor didn't do anything un doctoral. But I still felt violated. I felt like he didn't ask for my consent. I was 12. This is what happened: I had gone in for the physical and they had me change into a gown and take off my shirt. But they didn't make me take off my pants. I was lying down on the table and after the doctor was done with listening to my heart etc, he unbuttoned my pants and unzipped them to palpate my abdomen. But he didn't ask to. He just did it. I felt so violated. But I couldn't get myself to say anything. I grew up in a family with strong rules about no one touching your "private parts". And that was just too close for comfort. Couldn't he have at least asked? Or had me do it? Instead he just went and did it. And my mom was sitting right there. But at the same time, I don't feel like that gave him the permission to do that without asking. Am I totally over reacting? It was a long time ago now. But I still feel violated and exposed over it. I don't know if I'm just making too much of a deal about it in my head. Anyone? Am I over reacting?