{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Willow}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I think it is important to get those negative thoughts out of you head and onto the paper. That way you can attack them, burn them, delete them and finally replace them with good thoughts. The sweet thoughts you deserve. As for it being another headbashing, I don't believe this is true. You were expressing your feelings. Getting them out AND you put them here were anyone could use them as a way to hurt you. That takes guts. I know we are a safe group of people who would never purposefully hurt one another but there is always that danger and you had the courage to put it out there on the table for us all to see. AND you kept from hurting yourself for a little while. You did good. Another Big Hug {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{willow}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} As for my feelings about those words, I don't think you need to take on any of those lables. You are not a Faghag because that is a derogatory word indicating that being gay is bad so being a friend to gay men is bad. I don't believe either of these things so in my world there is no way you could be a faghag. As for the things about your looks. I got to know your one eye which was beautiful then you graced us with your whole face which matched the eye very nicely. I wish you would put your picture back on below your name again.
Now take care,
Love,
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson