I think the struggle between the fantasy and the real relationship in therapy is where the confusion comes. I often have things I wish I could say about how I feel about us, but when I see her face to face its like, wow, did I really think that? But its the talking about both sides of the relationship, the real and the fantasy that has to be done. Once I enter the room I begin to "come too" again. When I'm on the other end of a pc my fantasy takes over.