OUr biggest fear was still being hurt by others for our inner children. Bringing them to the present for us was letting them know that the world is safe for them. sometimes outsiders can be cruel but that is out of their ignorance of who and what you are. but by rights the physcal dangers should be over. As to letting her go that is up to you but that is not until you both learn to work together and chose to be one again. let your T know that right now you need to let each other know that now is the time to get to know one another. That talk of joining or intergrating is to triggering now. That should give you both time to find out what you both want and still feel safe in therapy.
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Sometimes the only way to find freedom is to fight for it, even unto death! Because no form of abuse transcends pass it! To live free and with hope is still the greatest gift of life!- anderson .gif "Boy Angel")
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