I was planning to post for exactly the same reason. I went to the link [TheByzantine] posted on distortions.

Isn't part of the problem being reasonable, fair and holding others to the same standards as you hold yourself?

The world doesn't use "my standards" of fairness. Getting caught up in thinking that there is some basic set of standards that everyone in the world uses and that I know what those standards are is a distortion which leads to setting myself up for failure and disappointment. Right? So by the same token, my idea of a perfect scenario or way so do something is also a fallacy. Failure (if you want to call it that) is just one way to practice for success. Although I have to admit, sometimes it seems like I get way too much practice!

I really believe that how you feel about yourself also has a lot to do with the company you choose and how you interact with them. Take a look around you. Surround yourself with people who reinforce who you are and make you feel good. Sad to say but some of the most well intentioned people feed off of producing negative energy.

"It's hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." ~Sally Kempton

I like that quote...