(((Googley)) I wouldnt compare your T to desk-t but she used to "change the rules" all the time and left me confused. And that was a scary familiar feeling I grew up so it left me even more confused and feeling like I did something wrong. Once when she was going on vacation she told me, "there's always the phone" and I took it to mean I could call her (she was never clear). I did and when she got back from vacation she said to me, "you called me on my vacation, what's THAT about?" I was stunned silent.

I would say ask T, it IS really confusing and I can totally understand why you would feel confused and like you did something wrong. That is a major trigger for me, that "I did something wrong" and I was thinking I was going to be doing something right

Im sorry ((((Googley))))