Thanks, 1day. I know H does work at home and has to - he rewrote his paper for example yesterday. I just wish he would have seen what needed doing yesterday and done some of it rather than getting cross with me. I've tried asking for help in the past but he gets very defensive and makes out that I do very little around the house. He's going to be away for a few days on two conferences and to be honest I can't see it will make much difference other than that I will have to cook tea for this kids and me rather than him doing it, and I will have to go to the shops to get daily supplies rather than him.
C