Dear Jexa!! what I hear yr T saying is that she has sympathy for your feelings when talking about something hard - but you both know that the only way out is through - the time will come when you need to get through that, she will wait for you.

asking what woudl it be like when therapy is over is (at least in my T's case) a way of saying, let's look at a bright happy day; what do you like best about it? She meant it to give me hopefulness, to put a little solidity into the vision. If I could say, for example, that on that day I can know someone's anger at me and not go into spirals of fear and anguish over their possible rejection and abandonment - then T sees one of the pathways we need to make to get to that day.

I hasten to add!! that when T asked me this, I told her I don't know what that day will be like; I can't see it from here; she understands that too, and said, it's OK. And it is for you too. Know that that day is out there, Jexa, even though the road seems long; yr T is not trying to push you out the door.