Googly - I agree with Muffy (I think Muffy you are a very responsible parent. I like your approach to this.)

Googly - I value this site a lot and do think its wonderful it offers the platform for adults and children to verbalise and share their (sometime taugh, garphic, complicated) experiences. All I said was that in responding to someone post we should be taking into account the poster's age. You are right in saying that parents should be respoinsible. But I disagree with the word policing. Guiding and keeping safe - yes. But policing to me is something the autorities and the state should be doing not parents. When it comes to the net and tv and mobiles parents should explain their kids the risks. They should be blocking any sex sites/channels etc but not news sites. Nothing wrong with exposing kids (dependant on age) to news. As long as they have the parental guidance and support. And that is the important thing for me - parental guidance, support and care. If we as parents do not offer that and only 'police' we are risking in raising very unhealthy kids. I also want to make another point - there are kids on this site that really need to post, be graphic and expose their abuse. For these kids this site is great as it can offer them something their home does not and some life line, quite literally. So I am glad they have access to this. I do not think resources should not be available to kids, also about very prominant issues such as depression, abuse, anxiety and SI, mental illness as well as support and help. And in that this site is great. I hope you can see my issue with policing. If these kids parents offered them the love and care and guidance the kids need, no policing is needed. And this is what I wish for all kids. But I think this is a somewhat different discussion to the one I intended when I posted. I just think that we, here, as adults should keep in mind that when we give advice we should take into account the age of the poster. I would not advise a kid of 10 to stand up to the abuser and pack a bag to be ready to leave when needed. That would be so irresponsible and putting them in danger should they wish to follow this advice. But if I read a post about abuse and I do not find out that its a kid (and sometimes you cannot tell as some kids write very well and are very mature in their expression) I may write that. SO - all I am saying when you respond, take that into account.

Hope you have a lovely day