What you describe sounds like chaos. Its a very chaotic enviornment and it does sound to me like there is an issue of boundaries.

Its a big deal that your brother is going to jail. I am sorry. It must make you feel all sorts of things.

No wonder you are so confused. Your home life lack the clarity and stability you need. Please speak to you counselor about this.

To me, it sounds like you need to docus on yourself a bit and grow emotionally before you enter a committed relationship.

I wish you happiness xxx