Oh, my goodness...
This "brother" has destroyed your family heirlooms, your possessions from your past on the ranch, and all your sister is concerned about is that the neighbors might find out!
Is he living on the property, in the family home? Or just grazing his cattle there? Whatever his circumstances, what he has done is blatantly destructive and hateful.
I am a little concerned for your safety going there.
Seeker