Hiya, just read this and I am also confused by how men think. Having read most of the responses you have had, I tend to agree that it is his fault as he was the one doing all the asking. I have found that if I give away too much personal information in the early days of meeting and getting know some one it takes away the mystery of who you are too?? I could make a totally patronising comment about men, being, men have only two faults, everything they say and everything they do to make light of the situation, which wont help you right now, but Dolf, be strong, be you and thats it sis. He has obviously lost out on someone very very special and doesnt deserve you anyway!!