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Sex is 90% mental and 10% physical. In my opinion most 15 year olds don’t have the life experience and knowledge to understand the full impact sex has to the body and psyche. It’s very frustrating that Mother Nature didn’t take that into account when designing our bodies to produce the hormones that create those urges at that age.
I’m a realist. I didn’t tell my kids “don’t have sex” I explained WHY it’s a bad idea before you’re fully ready to take on all of the ramifications (good and bad) that come with it.
Soap box aside, sex was extremely painful for me until I was 7 months pregnant with my oldest child. I was in a respectful, kind and loving relationship. It never occurred to me to tell him, it never even occurred to me to discuss this with my doctor. So thanks to those of you that shared information on possible conditions. What a comfort that would have been at the time to know it wasn’t just me.
My own situation resolved itself as I said when I was quite pregnant. I was lying in bed trying to get comfortable with that belly, when I moved I felt a “click” in my groin. It wasn’t exactly painful, just like something that had been out of place managed to work its way back in and it was a bit tender. The next time my husband and I had sex it was awesome!
So my advice is wait to have sex until you’re in a committed relationship. There are no moral implications here, a person in a committed relationship feels more comfortable about discussing what feels good and what doesn’t. If you still have problems then, take it up with a GYN.
Just curious, what conversation did you have with GYN when you required stitches?
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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