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Hi Lydia,
when I first answered your post I thought you were a grown woman and I answered you sincerely. If you would have put your age I would have cautioned you about sex at an early age, but still would have given you a similar answer. Your friend 'Pain' is the one who stirred things up and started to point the 'finger of shame' at me and other posters who were only trying to give you a decent answer. Here is her post:

OH.My.GOSH what is wrong with people on here ?
Let me tell you Lyida because some people have no idea : S
sex is painfull because you are 15 and your body is to young to have sex with older males who are hurting you.
WHY are people trying to tell you there is something wrong with you. Talk about worrying somebody for no reason.
Lyn P...you should not be telling her ways to have sex :S
OhhMyyGooosh XD

I would like to help you though and I think you would benefit by having some good mentors who could educate you about the dangers of getting involved at a young age. I know a lot about human sexuality(got an A+) in University. I'm also a mom of 2 young girls 12 and 8.

I remember what it was like being 15 and I wish I knew then, what I know now. I was lucky I didn't have sex until I was 18, but now I wish I waited even longer. I was also lucky that I had a loving partner who was gentle and respectful to me. I think in todays society there isn't enough emphasis on 'making love' - which is a beautiful experience. Now there's only talk about SEX - the basic act often lacking in emotional connections. I think this is what you experienced and you will always feel used in these circumstances.

Sex shouldn't hurt and you certainly shouldn't need stitches. Your partner should have STOPPED. If I were you, I would stop all sexual contact until you're more mature. There's so many STD's and pregnancy dangers. In addition I would hate for you to learn that sex isn't beautiful and pleasurable. At the moment you're just a toy to the men you had sex with and you should want better for yourself. If you want to learn more about STD's we can talk about it here. Some of these STD'd can kill you, make you sterile or at least cause you pain.

You have the right to control your body and if a man is being so rough that you need stitches - then you've lost control. You also should stay away from alcohol. It will make you do things you wouldn't normally do and diminishes sensation. Be smart and honour your body and don't let men take advantage of you. This is exactly why I told you in the first post - to have control the next time you have sex. Think about your future - do you want to become a used boy toy or grow up to be a strong woman who determines what happens with her body. I am willing to advise you the same way I would my own daughter. I wish when I was 18 I had a site like PC available to me, so I could have asked questions and recieved honest straight forward answers. We can give you honest answers and we have a lot of wise advice to offer - all you have to do is ask. If you keep going down this road you'll end up hurt, emotionally and physically - you'll regret it later in life.