Hmmmm this is a tough spot to be in. I understand because I am a product of a step family with both of my parents being remarried. It is not easy.

I dont think it is really fair of your father to ask you to make all of the effort here. Although, in an effort to bring peace with in your family, I do think it is a wise idea for the two of you to get to know eachother better. The fact is, you both have your father in common. You both care for him deeply and I think its only fair that the both of you, jointly make an effort.

My suggestion is, bite the bullet, for your fathers sake. Ask her to a movie, lunch or maybe a few hours at the mall. Talk about things. Get to know eachother. She may surprise you and vise versa.

I know it feels like your the one giving in, but sometimes, we have to be the bigger person. Just my 2 cents

I wish you luck because this is not an easy situation,

Hugs,


Jen