I agree AAAAA I would like to know the answer to that question too. Sometimes when a woman loses her virginity there might be slight pain or light bleeding and this varies from woman to woman - sometimes there's no pain. Even a very experienced woman, who had children, could feel extreme discomfort if she's dry and the man FORCES himself on her.

The original poster mentions she wasn't receptive to sex and therefore was probably not lubricated - in addition she's not fully grown anatomically. We also don't know if she might have some other condition like what you had AAAAA or what I mentioned.

The bottomline here, as I see it is - if she choses to continue sexual relations then she should take precautions(protection and birth control) and find a gentle, respectful young man who will honour her. Only have sex if you're ready and willing. Remember there's a big difference between having sex and 'making love'.

But my true opinion is that Lydia IS too young to be having sex and should wait until she's older from now on. Concentrate on school and becoming an independent woman who always has control over her life. Have the upper hand and know you don't have to be victim. Learn how to emphasize your 'girl power'.