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Originally Posted by jexa
........I worry that if I get better I won't be worth her time anymore.. I'm not even sure it's the bad part of me I think she'll reject. She's a T; she sees people's bad parts all the time. It's more like, if I don't have MAJOR issues, I feel like I don't deserve attention at ALL. It's like, I NEED to have at least one major problem to be deserving of anyone's care. Because if I wasn't TRULY needy and in pain, then my needs wouldn't EVER get met. Wow! That is what I am afraid of!.............
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Jexa... one of my FOO told me, I had a much harder life than you; I know you well; in my eyes you have no reason for seeing a T
and are wasting her time ... I was very upset about this (no kidding, having been working on this for 2 yrs already, and no end in sight) and I asked T if she agreed. With the most serious face she said,
absolutely not. And added, no one can tell you that; every person's experience is completely his/her own.
Judith Viorst in "Necessary Losses" quotes a story, based on fact, in which two siblings have diametrically opposed experiences of the same mother: encouraging / discouraging, caring / neglectful, cherishing / devaluing, etc. Same mother, two siblings, totally different. It really can happen.
So yr T doesn't have to see that you were involved in what the DSM classifies as a traumatic experience; if TO YOU it was traumatic, then it really was, and she works with you on yr trauma. Etc, etc. She is there to deal with YOUR issues, not to measure them and judge them.