(((((((((( Kitten )))))))))) You are such a wonderful writer! Wow. That would be a tough choice to bring it up or not. I would say to bring it up because you deserve to know what is going on. And if you need to have him give you a more structured approach that will help you in therapy - then I say that is what you should ask for.
But I say that to you while I am facing a similar problem with the hug issue! UGG! You describe things so well! Like you get random rewards and you are left trying to figure out why! That is how I feel when I get a hug then don't get one at the end of session! I want to bring it up - but I don't at the same time because I am afraid it will mean I just have to never get a hug from T again. That just leaves me feeling like there would be a wall there.

I sure do hope you are able to do whatever it is that is best for you to do in this situation!