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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
Jexa... one of my FOO told me, I had a much harder life than you; I know you well; in my eyes you have no reason for seeing a T  and are wasting her time ... I was very upset about this (no kidding, having been working on this for 2 yrs already, and no end in sight) and I asked T if she agreed. With the most serious face she said, absolutely not. And added, no one can tell you that; every person's experience is completely his/her own.
Judith Viorst in "Necessary Losses" quotes a story, based on fact, in which two siblings have diametrically opposed experiences of the same mother: encouraging / discouraging, caring / neglectful, cherishing / devaluing, etc. Same mother, two siblings, totally different. It really can happen.
So yr T doesn't have to see that you were involved in what the DSM classifies as a traumatic experience; if TO YOU it was traumatic, then it really was, and she works with you on yr trauma. Etc, etc. She is there to deal with YOUR issues, not to measure them and judge them. |
Ugh SAWE! That is an awful thing for someone to say, especially if we doubt ourselves already! My siblings say I shouldn't obsess so much about therapy, but no one tells me I am wasting my T's time. Truth is they know I need it. When my OCD got bad,
everyone could tell I needed help (I was spending up to 8 hours a day ritualizing - it was like I lost control of both my mind AND my body). Now I'm functioning but no one in my life is questioning whether I need therapy after my crazy episode. I'm so glad because if anyone did I would SO lose it.
When I was younger, though, and very depressed (my parents thought I was just being an angsty teen but this was more than simple teen angst) I kept getting told I was fine, I was fine, I was just going through a phase. But no one knew I had experienced CSA and was currently being SA by my grandfather and finally understanding exactly what he was doing now that I was a young teen. This is when I started to SI. All those years I never got help. So maybe that's where this is coming from. I still do need help. I'm so afraid that I won't get it.. that no one will hear me.. now that my OCD is better who will still hear me? But T will.. she will... *sigh* Why is it so hard to trust?