I think you did not cause his drinking and no matter what you do you cannot cure him. You can do something to put your life on track even if he does not change. I want you to do 1 thing. I want to recommend that you find an al-anon meeting in your area and attend a meeting. I read through your thread and found you negotiating with yourself and attempting to convince some of us that your bf is a good guy and find a solution (just one more chance. you gave him 3. Won't you give yourself a chance? I have the number to the national domestic hotline: (800) 779-7233. They are open 24/7. Please do not be passive in this matter. Wish I had warm fuzzies for you but I offer help. Good luck to you and keep posting and let us know how you are doing. Wish I was with you to help you through this. Been there done that. You are also welcome to PM me anytine you want.