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Originally Posted by treehouse
What if this IS it, MUE? What if the problem isn't that you aren't willing to let go, but that T isn't the "right" one to do it with? What if his approach just doesn't work for you?
I remember when you talked about the other T from group...it sounded like you felt so much more at ease and cared for with him.
It takes two people to make therapy work. I am only able to do what I do in therapy because my T is so gentle and caring and open and accepting. He pushes me, but not more than I can handle. And I literally, LITERALLY have never felt anything from him but acceptance. No matter how much I resist or fight or use bad coping skills or whatever. And that acceptance has allowed me to take my walls down, brick by brick. SLOWLY.
I just wanted to throw that perspective out there. I could be totally off base...but I do know that we often have a tendency to take ALL of the responsibility for things on ourselves, and it's not always ours to hold. 
 to you. |
I really do care for my T, and I know he cares about me too. I don't want to give up on what we've built so far - and how much we've accomplished over this last year together. It's true that he does not provide the kind of warmth and physical affection that the other T does so freely. But I don't know that things would be any different as far as letting go of these self-protection mechanisms that have been in place my entire life. I can't seem to "let go" even alone in the comfort of my own bed....