thanks for everyone's comments...I am worried that he might be a control freak...but I grew up with a mother who was very controlling....she didn't let me be me...and made it known that I should be exactly like her or I was a failure....

my previous ex was controlling...I think I liked it because I felt like I was being taken care of by someone...I felt like a kid again...although i know its not healthy...I think i am attracted to that...it makes me feel safe...my ex told me what clothes to wear...how to wear my hair...what food to eat...

I think he started realising his behaviour though...because I wanted tog et my belly butoon pierced..and he said is it ebcause of me...don't get it done if I want that...I said no I want it...so I went and got it and he liked it...he also started telling me...I will eat this food and you can eat whatever you want...I won't force you to eat something you don't like

I'm fairly shy and quiet...so I like when someone talks...my present bf likes the same things I like...so a lot of the things we plan...I like too...and he is good that when he says can we hang out...I say...Ican't...he doesn't get upset like my ex did...and he lets me hang out with ym friends...his friend told him to that he should back off and give me space...I think he is jsut enrvous about making me happy...and doesn't want to screw thing up