Just my .02!

I was thinking (havent read the whole thread so perhaps this was mentioned) that perhaps you could offer some sort of alternative. I was thinking maybe she could have a group of friends including boys over, to YOUR house while YOU are there with them, to watch a movie. Or maybe you could join them at the movie, to provide a chaperone and a safe environment.

I do think your totally correct in the decision you made. I think that 12 is just TOO young to be alone with boys, and I am willing to bet that in this case she just might have been a bit naive and is now realizing that what you did was good.

Im just thinking that if this becomes a bone of contention, and you are comfortable, maybe you could offer one of these alternatives or look to this as something to be considered in a year or two when it becomes more of an intense issue.

Dont worry about her hating you. All kids do this - they have hormonal issues and being a teen or tween is DIFFICULT emotionally. You just happen to be the brunt of her frustration at being too young and also too old. Too young to date, to old to not talk to boys at all or just hang out.