I have been there hon. exactly where you are. I really hate to tell you but you can't force him to stop drinking. for them it isn't a choice. I think it is pretty rare for one to stop under those circumstances. if you really want to work it out I strongly suggest going to alanon for yourself. he will not stop until he wants to. it won't be for you or anyone else. if you need an ear I am here for you. feel free to pm me.