Those thoughts are good Erin, but when I do that... They say I am selfish and I am only thinking of myself... I am beginnning to think there is NO HEALTHY BALANCE at all in this life!!!!!!! As hard as my mind wants to give up on things... my heart is this tenacious part of me that cannot give up on anyone or anything ,... no matter how much I get hurt.. it just wants to love and to be loved and cared for.