Maybe you can explore this with your t? We usually attract the kind of people we grew up with. As we become more self aware we learn the truth. What we want and do not want...and we learn and explore our past to make our future better. I use to attract abusive people. I found a lot of abuse in my past. Once I learned what abuse was, if I encounter abuse, I leave those people in the dust. I also can't go into places like Walmart because unfailingly I saw/heard abuse and it triggers me. This wasn't a one time either...it was EVERY SINGLE TIME. I think it is sad because they have a pretty state of the art "security system" which prevents theft but the kids are still not safe. Good place to start is educating yourself about abuse and reflect how it has affected your life. You may be repeating old patterns.