Hi, I have been with someone 6.5 years. Things were great most of the time. But - he was drinking too much (still is) and he was abusive.

The thing to understand with this is - that abuse and drink are 2 different problems.

Not all drunks are abusive and not all abusive guys are alcoholics.

He needs to go on a programme to help him stop drinking and also on an abusive man programme.

You need to stay away from him. He is dangerous.