OK, I'm a guy so maybe I could help with some support.

What I sense here is this. He may not be interested in going further with a relationship. A kiss means "something is happening here - make a decision, do you want it to progress or not." As a guy, he's "accomplished something" - got a kiss out of spending time and he's reached a milestone. However, he may not be able to share and commit and offer you himself exclusively in a longer-term relationship and can't necessarily tell you that without feeling ashamed.

I don't have any details but the way you described it - you would best let go of this guy and try to find someone who is more compatible with you, more in tune to your spirit and someone who would really enjoy being around you. You deserve someone who lights up when they talk to you, not someone who says "I didn't feel like calling". Ever see a friend and they greet you with a wide-eyed "Hiiiiiiii!" - that's the kind of guy you can enjoy spending time with.

Now, dating - that's an interesting thing. Some people go into dating with expectations that every one you meet is going to be perfect for you - your next soul mate and are hurt when they don't work out. Dating, to a lot of people is far more than it really should be. They make it into an attempt to re-define themselves through others and put a lot of weight into what the other party thinks of them and devalue themselves when they are rejected by someone else. Be careful not to allow yourself to be devalued by him (or someone like him).

Just consider dating what it is supposed to be - sharing time with someone else of the opposite sex. If they're not right for you, there are billions more of them out there who you can meet. Think of the possibilities!

I'll support you in saying - you are a great person and will attract the right kind of person into your life when the time is right. Keep a positive attitude and that person's image in your heart and they will come to you in due time.

(oh my - my son in 5th grade just came home from school and said "I heard we have a dance in February"... My first-born's first step into the possibilities of a dating situation. Sheesh).

- John