Never be hesitant to ask a question for this is the way we learn.

IMO - I feel as though the ideal that masturbation is a bad thing started way back when ladies did not talk about such thing let alone enjoy it... sex was then considered a man thing that women suffered through for the sake of keeping their man from straying... and then the church got involved at one point (way back then) telling people what they could and could not do sexually and it just sort of stuck.

I personal par take of this practice with and with out my husband being present (and) I try to encourage others to see masturbation for what it is - as a natural sexual activity that takes place "hopfully" in private.... no shame here.