First thing was that as soon as I found out I was moving I had this major blow up thinking she was trying to get rid of me. (self defense I think). We talked about that and she assured me that she was not going anywhere. Then we continued with T (I still had a couple of months.) We talked about my fear of pulling away and losing that contact before I left. So we talked about that also. I know what helped the most was during the last two or three sessions I had before I left we used them to talk over what I had accomplished in T and then to talk about the best parts. Not necessarily the easiest parts, but the parts that I had learned the most from. One of those had happened just a couple of weeks before when for the second time (ever) I had gotten really mad at T and we had been able to talk about it and process it. Another time we talked about was an experience from the very beginning of our time together. Reviewing these things gave me a feeling of being able to take it all with me and all the positive memories of how much I had grown. I did have a couple of phone contacts with my T after I moved until I got set up with my new T and that helped a lot. After our last call I bawled my eyes out. But it was helpful to have that contact while I was adjusting to my new place and adjusting to my new T. She acted as a sounding board for me to bring up things about the new T and talk about any concerns I had. I know that if the one I was set up with had not worked out, she would have helped me find another one and kept in contact until that happened.

I also wrote T a letter telling her how much she meant to me and how much our work together meant. I wanted to make sure that I got everything down and didn't accidentally leave something out. So I gave that to her also to take home and read and then we talked about it the next session. I also have a copy of the letter to remind me how much work we accomplished.