Hello Paperboat.

I am so happy for you on your pregnancy!! This is wonderful news. Also - welcome to PsychC -its a great place to get support and advice and learn about different issues and topics.

I am so sorry he treats you this way and you that you are suffering. I am extremly worried about your own safety and I think you need to be strong and face the painful reality. What you describe is painful abuse. It is never OK to shout relentlessly and put someone down, punch them or threaten them.

The fact that he hit you while you are pregnant risks both you and the precious baby (as you said) and you need to go away from your husband to keep safe and keep baby safe.

I dont think you made a mistake - lots of abusive men show their true colour only after marriage and when the woman is pregnant. (I was 'lucky' that my fiance showed his before we got married). So you made your decision out of love. That is not a mistake. But now that he behaves in an unacceptable way and in a way that risks your mental wellbeing and physical wellbeing and your baby's future, I think it would be a mistake to stay in the relationship. Its not going to get better.

His demand that you stay with his parents is another way to dominate and control you. He sees you as his posession. Its a very unhealthy and dangerous way to see things and you must keep yourself safe.

Read a bit about domestic abuse. And I am here if you have any questions/worries.

I am thinking about you (I am in the process of leaving my abusive fiance).

Hugs xx