I remember you were just delving into really hard stuff as these ruptures began. Maybe there is som truth to what farmergirl said. I remember Tree talking about doing this her T. Rupturing to avoid difficult issues. Its like fighting with myhisband about the stuidist stuff when I am mad at him for not taking out the garbage etc...

I know its difficult, for whatever reason it is going on. And you are SO brave to be looking at all of this. Maybe you could start with a simple, single question to her- like "did you change the way you act with me?" "The way you act with me feels different than before did you change something?" She will probably ask her questions then and it might give you and "in" to say what you want.