In my view, your husband is obviously using your emotional problems and the children as a means of controlling you. And yes, I believe he is abusing you. Is he a good father? How much time does he actually spend with the children? Does he help you with the children, wash some clothes, do any cleaning?

Statutory and case law is to the effect that a parent suffering from mental illness should not be penalized in a custody dispute provided the sufferer is following the instructions of her treaters and is capable of taking care of the children.

My suggestion to you is to keep a journey of the amount of time your husband spends with your children and the comments he makes about using the children as weapons to keep you in line.

You should not have to remain in an abusive relationship because you fear your mental illness will be the deciding factor in a custody dispute.

Good luck.